Successful then Happy or Happy then Successful?
A whole lotta folks talk about happiness being the goal of a good life. I am part of that camp. It feels awesome to be happy: when I’m happy I feel joy, relaxation, contentment, fulfillment, stimulation and in a state of flow all at the same time. When I am unhappy I feel anxiety, fear, anger or just in a quandary, unsettled. How to achieve this magnificent state of happiness?
While some mystic and guru types believe that a happiness state is achieved by simply not thinking, surrendering to another, being present in the moment, I have found this to be hogwash. I have found happiness that I can tap into anytime, under all situations, through a process of knowing myself. Sure, my happiness is on a graduated scale from small to monstrous and will vary sometimes dramatically, but knowing I am capable of tapping into it, connecting with that feeling of happiness, no matter what, keeps me grounded with myself – the core of who I am, what feels good and what’s important.
Knowing myself is the heart of happiness. Living true to who I am delivers happiness every time. Feeling grounded and solid in the essence of who I am and not in what others expect of me, what culture dictates is acceptable, what the world defines as success or achievement, allows me to relax and take extraordinary comfort in the ability to trust myself: as I move through life’s never-ending experiences, challenges, diversity and doldrums, as I allow every cell of my body to speak to me about how I am feeling, what feels right and true for me and what does not, I flow with my inner guidance that invites me to find and connect with the radiance that is happiness.
In a state of happiness, life is magic. Doors open, opportunities present themselves, love flows easily, new and positive friendships are made, I sleep great. This is how I have come to know that happiness is a worthy goal of a good life.
How to know oneself? Begin with any moment. Slow down enough to feel how your body feels. What is it telling you? Ask your body how it feels and prepare to listen. Ask your body what you can do to feel better, to feel wonderful: sleep more? sleep less? work less or more? remove yourself from a relationship? seek a new one? say yes to more sex? less? eat more or less? eat differently? slow down or speed up? There are no right answers because you are different from everyone else on the planet. The only things that matter are between you and you. Connect with the messages your core being is ready to send you every time you ask. Experiment, discover, learn, grow, become responsible, and trust – yourself. All good things come from your profound connection with yourself.