Can we talk about boundaries? Everyone agrees that boundaries are important. What most don’t agree on is who gets to set the boundaries.
We all have our own sense of privacies, personal space, intrusive behaviors, etc. We all like to think we know what those are for ourselves, afterall it’s really all about what feels right and good and safe and empowered. What we never know is what another’s boundaries are. We make a mistake when we try to set the boundaries for another, especially for a child. Read more
It’s time we had an honest, heartfelt conversation about compassion. Yes, that warm and fuzzy, touchy-feely word we associate with goodness… NOT. Compassion is not those things. Compassion is mostly disabling and dysfunctional.
Not to throw the baby out with the bathwater here, compassion is a natural and probably useful feeling for the hopelessly and terminally ill, the hopelessly depressed aged and abused children too young to take charge of their lives. In all other cases it really doesn’t serve us or the recipients we feel compassionate toward. Read more